Do You Wait or Do it Now?
So i got to catch up with a long time friend of mine today. I was in KL for a few days without the kiddos, so a catch up that lasted all day is definitely a rare treat! C was a friend from college, who is contemplating marriage and possibly having children. Naturally, the topic of 'Do you wait for the right time or Now is the right time' came up...
For Matt & I, we met when we were in uni, many (many, many, many) years ago. We dated for 10 years, before the question was popped. After the ROM, we quickly started planning for children and Baby H was born a little over 2 years later. I was 36 years old when he was born.
As a couple, we accomplished a lot during the years we were together. We renovated and sold our first house together, surprisingly still together after the whole ordeal ( I was told by someone wise, that that's how you know you were meant to be together). Traveled to many countries together. Made many mistakes together, and most importantly grew together as a couple.
Having children was always in the back of my mind, I knew it was something I wanted to do eventually, but Now is never a good time, too young, too poor, too busy, too much to accomplish etc etc.
Then in a blink of an eye, we were both in our mid 30s, having children suddenly took on more urgency. So one day, we both decided to wait no more, and started actively planning for it.
Now at 39 with 2 children under 5, I often ask myself whether I would have done it earlier. I decided that my answer is No. Sure, it would be nice to have the extra energy to chase little people around. And it is certainly a nice idea having older kids when you are in your forties. But I am so glad we took our time with the baby making project. To make time for US before we devote all our time to Them. To grow as a couple before growing babies. Because with everything we have been through together, we can become confident parents and know that we will not be defeated by those little tiny terrorists that are also our children ^_^